To surrender is a verb. It’s an action. Surrendering is a thing we do. We can be surrendered or we can be surrendering. There are only two choices. As a verb, surrender means to “cease resistance to an enemy or opponent and submit to their authority.” Many people regard the first step of recovery as surrender. That powerlessness which is required to admit while recognizing a problem is essential to surrender. Many think that surrender is a matter of weakness. However, looking at the definition of surrender indicates that it is not. Surrender is not about giving up or failing. Spiritually, the act of surrender is much more humble and way less based on ego. The definition specifically states that to surrender is to “cease resistance.”
Serenity in Recovery
The serenity prayer often used in recover reads “the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference.” Ceasing resistance is acting upon the wisdom of knowing the difference between what can be changed and what cannot. Though drugs and alcohol seemed to be our greatest ally, it was our worst enemy. At some point, we recognized that we could not win over the cunning, baffling, and powerful substances. We realize that drugs and alcohol had taken authority in our lives. Surrender can bring serenity in accepting the fact that despite how hard we have tried in all the different ways we have tried, we cannot change alcohol itself or how we relate to it. Letting go of the fight and putting down arms to ask for help is an act of courage. The courage to change what we can means accepting the alcoholism, the addiction, as well as the drugs and alcohol themselves, will never change. We have to make the biggest change we will ever know: not picking up and using again.
Surrender means to stop fighting the enemy. Stop resisting admitting you are an alcoholic or a drug addict or someone who struggles with controlling the way they use substances. Surrender means being ready to accept help.
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