They aren’t interested in going out even though you know they want to go.
Social is not a word you would use to describe your partner. You know they love to be with friends and family to go out and have fun. Yet right before every occasion, your loved one seems to decline the opportunity to go.
They sleep before you, wake up before you, and are tired all day.
Anxiety causes sleep problems due to an overactive mind and imagination. Exhausted from a day of stress, people with anxiety will either go to sleep early, or, their anxiety will keep them up all night. Either way, they are up before you with a busy mind. You notice they complain about being tired all day, but they have a hard time resting.
They seem worried about everything all the time.
Anxiety goes beyond worry and concern, but they are certainly a big part of the issue. Nothing simply gets by your loved one. Analysis, concern, and planning come with everything that comes their way.
They don’t take criticism lightly.
Your loved one takes criticisms with a heavy heart, spending time ruminating on what they’ve done wrong. Anxiety is enveloped with perfectionism. Whether or not they say it out loud, you can tell they are obsessing over whatever has been said to them.
They get nervous when you don’t respond quickly enough.
A thousand things runs through the mind of someone with anxiety when they don’t hear back from a loved one when they expected to. They might tell you some of the things they thought about why you didn’t respond to them right away. If any of those things seems excessive or off-kilter, they might be suffering from anxiety.
They don’t like talking about the future but can’t let go of the past.
Nothing causes more anxiety for anyone than talking about the unknown of the future. Trying to make plans or dreams with someone who has anxiety can be a stressful conversation. Yet, your loved one is always able to talk about something from the past. They might even seem obsessive about it.
They can’t give themselves any credit for their accomplishments.
Anxious that they are not and will not ever be good enough, they constantly compare themselves to others. No matter how well they did or how much praise they receive, they never think it’s good enough. You’re loved one can’t cut themselves a break and it tears them down.
Aurora Recovery Centre provides therapeutic care for anxiety disorders in addition to treatment for substance use disorders. Substance use and anxiety are usually coupled, demanding an individualized program of care during treatment. Aurora is committed to supporting each member through a customized treatment program. For more information call 1-844-515-STOP.