Recovery isn’t meant to be easy. The truth is, more people would get and stay sober if it was. On the same token, using and drinking isn’t that much easier. Since people’s brain chemistry is altered by drugs and alcohol, they are programmed to think it’s the easy way out.
Losing Contact With Your Higher Power
Aurora Recovery believes in the power of spirituality when it comes to recovery. Developing a faith and belief of one’s own understanding can be immensely powerful in helping guide someone and give them the hope they need to carry on. Surrendering takes a lot of work. Gaining the conscious contact with a higher power is a critical part of the recovery program. Maintaining faith is hard to do when it is a new challenge. Old patterns of skepticism, doubt, and ego can creep in.
One of the most important parts of finding and developing a relationship with a higher power is believing in what is possible. Having a higher power puts one at “right size”, helping them to realize they are not in control, cannot be in control of everything, and must learn to live as well as love unconditionally.
Losing sight of this sacred relationship is a sign of a recovery program that isn’t being worked fully. Without the humbling presence of a higher power, a loved one can slip into harmful ways of thinking which can lead to relapse.
Ungrateful and Unthankful
Gratitude is the attitude for recovery. More than a spiritual practice, gratitude has been shown to change one’s neurochemistry. Practicing gratitude helps one be better hard wired for positivity in life. Seeing the good in everything helps to feel overwhelmed by depression, anxiety, and stress about life.
When gratitude is lost for recovery, including all of its hardships, it is easy to ease into negative thinking. Simply stated, if a loved one doesn’t think recovery is worth being thankful for, they won’t be inspired to stay sober.
Not Going To Meetings, Groups, Therapy, Or After Care
Keeping up with maintenance is one way for a loved one to stay in touch, stay accountable, and stay open about their experiences. Recovery is an ongoing learning lesson. Life is full of opportunities to grow. By avoiding environments that foster growth, a loved one can get stuck in a plateau state. Without the regular use of their new vocabulary and tools, they can lose touch with what it means to be active in recovery, eventually resorting to old ways.
Running, avoiding, fighting, stuffing feelings, worrying, stressing, controlling- all these things are psychologically, emotionally, spiritually, and physically draining. Usually when there is an undue amount of exhaustion, there is an undue amount of internal conflict. Check in with your loved one and ask them how their program is going. Likely, they’ve started to lose touch in certain areas. Encourage them to reach out and get involved again.
Aurora Recovery Centres offers a step down program from detox to transitional living. Including inpatient residential, outpatient, and intensive outpatient, Aurora can help meet your loved one at whatever stage they need to be supported. We are here to light the way to (or back to) lifelong recovery. For more information, call 844-515-STOP.