Suicide notes are often left with a theme. People feel lonely. The famous singer Janis Joplin was known to say that in her live performances she felt she made love to thousands of people each night, yet she went home alone. Loneliness is arguably one of the most pervasive issues the modern day world faces. Technology is connecting people all over the world in more realistic ways than ever before. Virtual and augmented reality devices are just a few years shy of being household items. Yet, people are reportedly feeling more isolated and disconnected.
Brain images demonstrate that a ‘lonely heart’ signals physical pain as well as emotional pain. Loneliness is a major contributing factor and symptom of depression, which also creates real physical pain. Depression is not the only mental illness connected to feelings of loneliness. In old age, loneliness has been linked to worsening dementia and alzheimer’s. Social anxiety and paranoia are two other mental health issues finding roots in loneliness. Loneliness has impact, with great effect. For a feeling to have such influence one has to wonder, is loneliness real or does the perception of loneliness give it power?
Dealing with Loneliness
Australian researcher Michelle Lim described loneliness as “a negative emotional state experienced when there is a difference between the relationships one wishes to have and those on perceives one has.” By dictionary definition, loneliness is the “sadness” one experiences “because one has no friends or company”. Lim explains that the absolutism which loneliness provides in it’s convincing argument of isolation, is not an objective fact, but a subjective one. “The unpleasant feelings of loneliness are subjective,” Lim began, “researchers have found loneliness is not about the amount of time one spends with other people or alone.” Someone feeling lonely may not feel they have no relationships, but that the relationships they do have are not of quality. Reaching a state of loneliness makes it difficult to maintain hope or faith that better relationships and more meaning in life is remotely possible.
Recovery is that possibility. Alcohol and addictive drugs make an elusive promise in providing meaning to our lives. When human beings no longer provide the sustenance that we need for enjoying life, alcohol and drugs willingly oblige to fill the role. Ultimately, these substances leave us heartbroken as well. Through the process of recovery, we learn how to engage in meaningful relationships again, most importantly, with ourselves.
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