Yes, New Year’s resolutions may be exciting, but they can also be overwhelming for some. Many people overthink their resolutions resulting in failing to reach their goals due to stress and anxiety.
There are several items to consider when overcoming the anxiety of not meeting your goals.
For one, it’s a brutal time of the year for many people emotionally and mentally because of post-holiday and winters blues. Besides debt from the holidays; bitter cold temperatures, snow, and shorter days change your overall mood, causing it difficult to manage your resolutions.
Here are a few ways that will help you successfully complete your goals for 2019.
1. Beat the Blues
If you’re starting to feel like nothing but very strong coffee will get you out of bed, you’re not alone. One part of this feeling is because of the shorter, darker days that occur in the winter months.
Create an environment at work and home that’s brighter. According to recent studies, sitting next to a light box for about 30 minutes a day can act as an antidepressant. You also can open your blinds and drapes more often to allow for more natural light, which will help with any negative feelings.
Another way to beat the blues is by going outside. Yes, taking a walk in frigid temperatures isn’t easy, but the benefits are terrific.
Not only will the walk get you moving, especially if you have a fitness resolution, but it will improve your focus, reduce any systems of anxiety or depression, and lower your stress levels.
2. Check on your secondary emotions
Secondary emotions are the emotional reactions we have to other emotions. You may begin to feel ashamed because you are anxious about your goals. In this case, the secondary emotion would be feeling ashamed and the primary emotion is the anxiety.
Since secondary emotions are embedded in your belief system, altering your mindset and belief system will help alleviate the reactions of those emotions. You also may want to research and learn about these emotions through different educational resources, therapy, or meditation.
Remember that your secondary emotions can be controlled, there is help for you, reach out to others because you haven’t fallen short.
3.Plan how you will help others, but don’t save the world
If your resolutions consist of helping people in your life or by contributing to charities or different communities near you, start small. Plan how exactly you want to help people. Don’t make it an ordeal. Start with small day-to-day acts of kindness. Having simple ideas of caring for others, and specific ways you can contribute to charities/your community will help you in the long run.
This may start off as simply saying, “thank you” to your mailman who must trek through the snow every day. Or it can consist of asking someone about their day. It also could be an act as easy as holding a door open for someone.
When you start doing more little things for others, you will be able to build on your plan because you will become more comfortable with the people who hope to help and understand their needs and desires.
4. Have some ‘me’ time
While you are planning your resolutions, remember to relax. Even if it’s just 15 to 20 minutes a day. It will help. Getting some down time will help you have a clearer picture of what you want, who you want to be, and where you want to see changes in your life.
By picking a relaxing hobby such as yoga, meditation, reading, or learning a relaxing therapeutic art such as drawing, you’ll be able to reflect on yourself and the year ahead.
You also can use the time to lose yourself completely by disconnecting from to your everyday life by watching a favourite movie or listening to some music.
With these tips in mind, you will be well on your way of overcoming any doubt you may have about your resolutions this year.